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"Can I Meet You?"

by Ally of www.voxerotic.com

If you work in the phone sex industry for long enough (like, a week), inevitably you will be asked by a client, "Can we meet?"

It's good to have an answer prepared for this question, because if the question takes you by surprise and you have to wing an answer, you may end up doing more harm than good while both trying to keep your client happy, and protect your own interests.

If you are a phone sex caller, you may develop a special relationship with one phone "mistress", and it may feel like the natural progression of things for the two of you to meet and take things to the "next level".

Stop right there.

There are many levels a phone sex relationship can reach, but an in-person meeting is almost always not one of those levels, for many reasons. First and foremost is the safety of the operator. Though we know that 99.9% of you are very normal, safe, sane people who share our enjoyment of phone sex, there is always the off-chance that someone with bad intentions could sneak into our fantasy web and do not-so-nice things once inside.

So for the sake of protecting the privacy and security of both parties, most services, and most independent phone sex operators, make it an absolute policy that no in person meetings will take place between callers and clients.

So it's best just not to ask, to avoid putting yourself and your phone sex operator in an awkward and potentially tricky situation.

But, you say, we're soul mates! We're made for each other! She is perfect in every way, we're destined to be togther!

Lemme tell ya something - we are paid to be pefect. We're professionally perfect women. Those who have been in this industry for a while, and/or who do very well at it, are very empathetic. They have the ability to determine what your idea of the perfect woman is, based on the things you say, the stimulus you respond to, and they become that model of perfection.

This is what they don't tell you, while they (we) are busy maintaining the illusion of perfection:

- we wake up with messy hair and raccoon eyes
- our breath stinks in the morning, and after we eat garlic-laden ravioli
- we sometimes get in very bad mood, throw shit, yell at you for no reason, and act very bitchy (just like the women you know in "real life")
- we get bloated, crampy, and PMS-y
- not all of us look like "the girl in the pictures"
- we will probably yell at you if you are late for a date, or leave dirty socks on the bathroom floor
- we have husbands and boyfriends

That last fact is something to consider - many of us cannot and will not ever meet you, simply because we already have someone in our life who is the "perfect guy" for us. However fantastically perfect our weekly phone sesssion are with you, you have not gone through relationship boot camp with us, you have not paid your soul mate dues, you have not come to know our "bad sides", and you cannot replace the men in our lives, whom we already love.

Some operators are hesitant to tell you that they have a significant other, for fear that this will put you off, or make you not want to call them. If I may suggest, in this instance, honesty is always the best policy. Fantasy is often better than reality - if you start off your phone sex relationship with your clients by telling them about the man in your life, then that fact can be woven into your fantasy world, and accepted, instead of kept like a dirty secret that needs to be confessed when things get "too deep".

This is all not to say that there has never been a fine romance born out of a coupling that started as a phone sex operator/client relationship; I'm sure that this has happened somewhere, sometime. But it is not the norm, it is statistically very unlikely to occur, and it is something that, I feel, all professional phone sex operators should keep in the back of their minds, when molding the phone relationship they have with their clients - it is just as much our responsibility, if not more so, to keep the relationship sexy, fantasy-based, and professional.

It's fine to get lost in your fantasy world when you make a phone sex call. In fact, I encourage it. That's one of the benefits of fantasy, after all. But do not confuse fantasy with reality. Do not assume that, because you get along so well on the fantasy plain of the phone sex call, that that compatability will carry over into the real world. Enjoy it for what it is - and enjoy it immensely.

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"Different Types of Phone Sex Lines"

by Ally of www.voxerotic.com

There are many different types of phone sex lines available to the adult fantasy caller. Twenty-five years ago, most erotic phone calls took place on 900 lines. The industry has evolved and changed a lot since then, and 900 lines are not frequently used for sex calls, due to FCC regulations and age considerations.

Most prevalent today is the 800 line, where you call into the service and either enter your credit card number on your phone, or provide your billing information to a live dispatcher. One benefit of calling a live-dispatcher toll free phone sex line, is the level of personalized service you can come to expect if you become a regular caller of that phone sex line. If you call regularly, the dispatchers will get to know you, and get to know the types of phone sex operators you enjoy speaking with. If there is someone new with the service that the dispatcher thinks you'll be interested in, she can recommend that you speak with her.

Some automated services will allow you to redirect yourself to a phone sex operator you've spoken with in the past.Some have a menu that you can browse through to hear different introductory messages, or voice samples, from the operators who are currently available to take your call.

Many of the larger services do not give you the option to speak with the same operator you've enjoyed a call with in the past. They distribute the calls as they come in, and you'll end up speaking with whomever the call distribution mechanism transfers you to. Who knows - you might hit the phone sex lottery and get a winner this way! But it's always good to use a service that allows you to get back in touch with the operator, in the event that you really hit it off with her and would like to call her again in the future.

There are still some 900 lines in existence. These lines are popular, because they bypass the need for a credit card. On the other hand, because there are no age restrictions in place on 900 lines, the operator is limited in the topics she can discuss with you and still be in compliance with applicable regulations. But, if you're horny some night, thumbing through a Penthouse magazine and can't resist making a call, you can see how erotic you can get without using language that's inappropriate for primetime - if you're creative and you have a creative partner, it just might work.

Whichever type of service you select, try to get the following information before you commit to a call:

- What are the per minute charges?
- Is there a connection fee?
- How will the charge appear on my bill?
- What is the company's refund policy?
- Is there a "grace period" at the start of the call, during which I can hang up and not be charged?
- Can I get back in touch with a specific operator, if I had a great call and wish to speak with her again?

Be smart with your selections, and enjoy your phone sex experience!

by Ally
The Phone Sex Madame
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Becoming a Phone Sex Operator - Part I, Types of Phone Sex Jobs

by Ally of Vox Erotic Phone Sex

It seems like the perfect job: set your own hours, work from home, be your own boss, talk to interesting men all day about everyone's favorite subject - sex!

Being a phone sex operator is definitely an interesting job, but it is also a job, one that requires a lot of patience, effort and self-discipline.

There are many different types of phone sex jobs. The first, and lowest-paying (usually), is the call center job. Most of these call center phone sex jobs pay in the range of $7 to $12 an hour. You relinquish one of the most attractive benefits of being a phone sex operator, which is working at home and setting your own hours. On the other hand, call center jobs usually pay by the hour, whereas work-as-home jobs most often pay by the minute, so with a call center phone sex job, you are getting paid for ever hour you're on the job.

The next type of phone sex job are large, national companies that pay in the range of .10 to .35 cents per minute. These are usually busy virtual call centers that will keep you on the phone most or all of your shift. These jobs are great for those just starting out in the industry, who'd like to get a feel for what types of calls a phone sex operator would have to handle during the course of their day.

After you've gained some experience in a large call center type of phone sex job, you may wish to graduate to one of the higher paying, Internet-based companies. There is a very wide variety of phone sex companies and jobs available on the Internet - the most common are dispatch and direct dial (trolling.)

Choosing between dispatch and trolling is a personal decision - it all depends on where your strengths are, and what you'd prefer to spend most of your time doing: if you prefer being on the phone, and don't really care for the marketing aspect of phone sex work, then you may wish to sign up with a reputable dispatch company. If you enjoy marketing and sales, you may wish to find a job with a trolling phone sex company. Trolling companies typically reward your marketing efforts with higher per-minute rates; dispatch companies invest much of their revenue in marketing and operating costs of their virtual call centers, so the per minute rate is typically a bit lower than with trolling companies.

If you're a true entrepreneur, you may wish to investigate self-service platforms such as Niteflirt. Niteflirt provides the website, billing, and call transfer services you will need to set up your own independent phone sex line. There are hundreds of operators working through the Niteflirt platform, so to distinguish yourself, especially at first, you should plan to do some marketing of your own, to bring in your own clients. But for the ambitious phone sex operator, a service like Niteflirt might be the way to go.

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"What do I say?" - Making your first phone sex call

by Ally of www.voxerotic.com

There are many for whom phone sex has been their "porn of choice" for years. They have made dozens or even hundreds of phone sex calls, and they know what they like, and "how to do it".

But everyone starts somewhere, right?

Inevitably, everyone who becomes a phone sex fan made a first call at some point. And maybe they knew exactly what they wanted, and knew how to verbalize it to the operator, and maybe they were lucky enough to hook up immediately with a very sexy, talented and knowledgeable operator the very first time they called, and the rest is phone sex history.

But that probably didn't happen to too many phone sex callers. Most likely, there was some trial and error involved in perfecting their phone sex experience. This article is written to give you, the fledgling phone sex caller, some insider tips and tricks to cut down on that expensive trial and error period, and get the most out of your phone sex call.

1. Be open about what you want:

Even the most talented and experienced phone sex operator will have a hard time working with the answer "whatever" or "anything you want", when she asks you what you'd like to talk about. Those of us who have been working in the phone sex industry for a long time know that there are hundreds of answers to that question, and many more variants of those hundreds of answers. We cannot possibly guess what you're into - or, we can guess, but odds will be that we will guess wrong. Before you call, think about what you'd like to talk about. Be ready to answer the question, "what are you into?" Because we phone sex operators have heard some pretty wild fantasies, and if you don't narrow it down for us, we're liable to choose something extremely kinky and unusual, just to prove to you that "whatever" just won't do it on a phone sex call.

2. Be polite:

If you're into talking degradingly toward women, you will probably be able to find someone to accomodate your preference. However, save this for after you've provided your billing information. If you introduce yourself with something idiotic like "hey baby" or "whassup" or "I want to fuck you" as soon as the phone sex operator picks up the phone, you will, at worst, hear a dial tone and at best, you'll be setting the wrong tone for the call. Speaking like a jerk at the start of your phone sex call will often put the phone sex operator on the defensive with you, and you won't get the best call possible. Be polite and as articulate as possible when you call, and you'll be met with professionalism in return.

3. Make some noise!:

We phone sex operators love feeback. In fact, it's very hard for us to give you a good phone sex call without your feedback. If you remain silent, we have no idea if we're going in a direction that's working for you. Even a moan or heavy breathing will give us the clues we need to weave your phone sex fantasy in a way that ends in the right place - with an orgasm! The more input you give us, the more enjoyable the session will be for both parties. I've talked to many phone sex operators who say that they enjoy long calls as long as the caller is participating in the conversation. If you are an equal participant, your phone sex operator can keep the conversation facinating for hours on end. If you remain silent (which is your prerogative, of course...), it's much more of a challenge to keep things going, especially when the call passes the one hour mark. Do your part, and give feedback, even if it's non-verbal. Your phone sex operator will appreciate it.

4. Make sure you have privacy:

Every phone sex operator has had the experience of a caller being walked in on during their phone sex call. Sometimes this can be humorous, and when the caller is into humiliation, it can be fitting, however sometimes you're caught by the wrong person, and that can be bad. It's disrespectful to make a phone sex call at a time when you might be caught by your wife (unless she's into that sort of thing, which is a different story!), and it's also not a good idea when you make a phone sex call at a time when you might be walked in on by a coworker or your boss (though I have my own fantasies along these lines...that too is a different story!) So make sure you have privacy when you call.

5. If it's not working for you, say so:

Perhaps your phone sex operator has misunderstood what you want. Perhaps you've neglected to give her some essential information about your fantasy. Perhaps you've just changed your mind about what you want. Before you hang up in frustration, give her a chance to redirect your fantasy. Tell her straight out: what we're talking about isn't working for me, and I'd like to talk about ________ instead. An experienced and talented phone sex operator will be able to instantly redirect your fantasy, and with the right information from you, perhaps she'll get it right the second time.

6. Say good bye:

Many times at the end of your phone sex call, after you've had an orgasm, you just want to go to sleep. We're used to that from you guys, no worries! But it takes half a second to say, "Thanks, good bye", so please have the courtesy to do so. This way, we know you're done, we know you didn't get cut off, and hopefully we know you enjoyed your call.

6. If you enjoyed your call, keep the phone sex operator's number:

In this industry, the best phone sex operators depend on repeat clients for their success. And if you've had a great call with an operator, naturally you'll want to call her again. Make a note, when you're post-orgasmic blissful nap is over, to make a note of her number, and call her again the next time you are horny and needing a sexy phone call. I assure you, she'll be very happy to hear from you again.

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