"Can I Meet You?"

by Ally of www.voxerotic.com

If you work in the phone sex industry for long enough (like, a week), inevitably you will be asked by a client, "Can we meet?"

It's good to have an answer prepared for this question, because if the question takes you by surprise and you have to wing an answer, you may end up doing more harm than good while both trying to keep your client happy, and protect your own interests.

If you are a phone sex caller, you may develop a special relationship with one phone "mistress", and it may feel like the natural progression of things for the two of you to meet and take things to the "next level".

Stop right there.

There are many levels a phone sex relationship can reach, but an in-person meeting is almost always not one of those levels, for many reasons. First and foremost is the safety of the operator. Though we know that 99.9% of you are very normal, safe, sane people who share our enjoyment of phone sex, there is always the off-chance that someone with bad intentions could sneak into our fantasy web and do not-so-nice things once inside.

So for the sake of protecting the privacy and security of both parties, most services, and most independent phone sex operators, make it an absolute policy that no in person meetings will take place between callers and clients.

So it's best just not to ask, to avoid putting yourself and your phone sex operator in an awkward and potentially tricky situation.

But, you say, we're soul mates! We're made for each other! She is perfect in every way, we're destined to be togther!

Lemme tell ya something - we are paid to be pefect. We're professionally perfect women. Those who have been in this industry for a while, and/or who do very well at it, are very empathetic. They have the ability to determine what your idea of the perfect woman is, based on the things you say, the stimulus you respond to, and they become that model of perfection.

This is what they don't tell you, while they (we) are busy maintaining the illusion of perfection:

- we wake up with messy hair and raccoon eyes
- our breath stinks in the morning, and after we eat garlic-laden ravioli
- we sometimes get in very bad mood, throw shit, yell at you for no reason, and act very bitchy (just like the women you know in "real life")
- we get bloated, crampy, and PMS-y
- not all of us look like "the girl in the pictures"
- we will probably yell at you if you are late for a date, or leave dirty socks on the bathroom floor
- we have husbands and boyfriends

That last fact is something to consider - many of us cannot and will not ever meet you, simply because we already have someone in our life who is the "perfect guy" for us. However fantastically perfect our weekly phone sesssion are with you, you have not gone through relationship boot camp with us, you have not paid your soul mate dues, you have not come to know our "bad sides", and you cannot replace the men in our lives, whom we already love.

Some operators are hesitant to tell you that they have a significant other, for fear that this will put you off, or make you not want to call them. If I may suggest, in this instance, honesty is always the best policy. Fantasy is often better than reality - if you start off your phone sex relationship with your clients by telling them about the man in your life, then that fact can be woven into your fantasy world, and accepted, instead of kept like a dirty secret that needs to be confessed when things get "too deep".

This is all not to say that there has never been a fine romance born out of a coupling that started as a phone sex operator/client relationship; I'm sure that this has happened somewhere, sometime. But it is not the norm, it is statistically very unlikely to occur, and it is something that, I feel, all professional phone sex operators should keep in the back of their minds, when molding the phone relationship they have with their clients - it is just as much our responsibility, if not more so, to keep the relationship sexy, fantasy-based, and professional.

It's fine to get lost in your fantasy world when you make a phone sex call. In fact, I encourage it. That's one of the benefits of fantasy, after all. But do not confuse fantasy with reality. Do not assume that, because you get along so well on the fantasy plain of the phone sex call, that that compatability will carry over into the real world. Enjoy it for what it is - and enjoy it immensely.

Submitted by the Phone Sex Index

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